If you and your boyfriend had a heated break up, it’s best to take a breather and take a week or two away from each other. One might be angry while the other is frustrated. Whatever the reason is, take a break from each other. After a week or two, you might want to either text, email or physically write a letter. Having no contact is best in the beginning if you feel you two should still be together. In the letter or email state that you still want to talk things through and that you feel your relationship is worth the fight.

Another suggestion is to go to counseling before the big break up. If you notice more argument and more frustration, then consider talking to someone. If your partner wants to save the relationship then they will go to a counselor. It may take some persuading and some time but eventually the other person will go if they truly want to save the relationship. Talking to a third party will enable more controlled talking and less yelling.

He Is Responsible With His Finances

Money is a serious topic in a relationship. As most divorce couples argued over money, knowing that your guy is level-headed when it comes to finances is a good starting point in your serious relationship. Some signs to know that he’s responsible with money are:

• He Keeps His Receipts – This shows that he is organized and keeps tracks of what he spends.
• He Uses Credit Cards and His Debit Card – This shows that he has money in the bank and isn’t putting everything on his credit card.
• You Notices Many Credit Card Offerings In The Mail – This shows he has good credit.

He Has Reasonable Long-Time Goals

A sure sign that he’s in it for the long haul is when he expresses to you that he has some long-time goals and knows what he wants in his life. Make sure he wants a career and that he plans to get married and have children.

He Is Open To Your Suggestions

Most guys will not change for your entirely but if they are open to some change then you know he really has fallen for you. For example, if he changes his hair style or clothing attire, then you know that you are more important than what he looks like.

He Is Optimistic

Men who are cheery and optimistic will have fabulous relationships. Women are attracted by a confident and optimistic fellow who can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

You have a keeper if your guy possess these qualities so make sure to keep him!

I’m sure you grew up with the notion that you can’t change a man but I have news gals! Yes you can. Since we know that we share 96% of our DNA with chimps, it is not surprising that males can be trained through some simple, yet effective, behavior techniques. No longer do you have to nag your boyfriend to clean up after himself or at least call you to see how your day was. Less argument will ensue and happier times will flourish. Read on to learn about what tricks you can do to make your guy do practically anything.

Problem: He Doesn’t Do Chores – Solution: Play With Him
So your guy says he’s allergic to doing his chores. He leaves dishes in the sink or clothes on the floor or laundry in the dryer. To fix this pesky problem simply indulge him in playful behavior. Men love to be goofy even if it’s at the most inappropriate times so go with the flow and play with him for a few minutes. Get your guy revved up and in a happy mood. Then tell him you will finish playing with him later as long as he empties the dishwasher or anything else you need him to do. Your guy will be much more receptive to this request with all those feel-good chemicals floating through his brain.

Problem: He Thinks Being Romantic Is Giving You A Back Rub While Watching TV – Solution: Use the Slow Approach
Since most guys haven’t been taught how to be romantic, it is our job to give them little hints to steer them in the right way. Comment on how pretty lilies are while walking by a store or stage candles everywhere in your place to create a romantic vibe. Model some romantic behavior by offering a massage on the bed with soothing oils. This will make him comfortable enough to repay the favor. Whatever way you introduce romance, make sure to do it slowly and consistently. Over time you guy will clue in and start doing this spontaneously.

Problem:You Guy is A Social Nightmare Around Peeps – Solution: Ignore The Bad And Praise The Good
Is this your guy: you and your guy meet up with some friends and he immediately starts telling off-putting jokes or makes snide remarks. I’m sure you’re immediate action is to react and tell him to knock it off. This, however, proves to be ineffective. This type of reaction for men makes them feel like children. Inadvertently you are acting as a mother and your bf is your child. Instead of reacting, simply ignore. When your guy is behaving good, give him some much needed PDA (Public Displays of Affection) by tapping him on the butt or giving him a quick kiss. Since men are always thinking about sex, doing these PDA’s will register that this feels good, give me more. They will soon realize the connection.

Problem: You Argue And He Runs – Solution: Stay Level Headed
When it comes to arguing, you find that your are talking to the walls. He either shuts down or leaves the room. To avoid this behavior, try to act cool and well mannered when approaching him. I know this sounds hard, but in the long run, you will have a guy that will listen to you and perhaps communicate back to you.

Just like puppies who need training, men need guidance in your relationship. I hope this helps!

Well, guys tend to see their dating partner as serious girlfriend material after they usually see her in some hair razing, sticky filled situations. Here are four “real” ways to make sure you’re a keeper in his life.

You Get Cutesy Mad
Fellas seem to love when women get really pent up and full of rage. But it’s how women get really pent up that can break or make a dating moment. If a woman starts getting mad and not explaining herself, her fella will ultimately retreat quietly. However, if a woman explains why she is soo upset and mad it can show her man that she can be rational and honest with him.

You Start Wearing His Clothes Around
When a woman is secure enough to dawdle around in her man’s boxers or t-shirts with no makeup on, it shows her fella that this is the real deal. Around this time, a couple is seeing more of each other and developing a routine: hanging out Friday night while blowing off your friends and staying over at his house till Sunday. Being around each other 24/7 tests the relationship to see if you two can live together. So don’t be afraid to not shave occasionally or forget to wear your falsies. Your fella will love seeing the real you.

You Embarrass Yourself In Front Of Him
Okay, so you and your guy are on this ultra romantic date and you end up tripping and bust your lip open. Guys like when they see a woman who doesn’t take life too seriously. So laugh it off. When a woman can laugh at her self, it shows her guy that you can roll with the punches.

Hearing About His Ex In Stride
Obviously your man has ex-girlfriends so don’t fool yourself. When you can tolerate hearing about them by not reacting all crazy, then it shows your man that you are secure in their relationship. When a man sees no jealously or insecurity, they know that they have a keeper.

Showing your man these sticky situations will undoubtedly cause him to think more seiously about your relationship. Give it a try and see if they work.