I’m sure you grew up with the notion that you can’t change a man but I have news gals! Yes you can. Since we know that we share 96% of our DNA with chimps, it is not surprising that males can be trained through some simple, yet effective, behavior techniques. No longer do you have to nag your boyfriend to clean up after himself or at least call you to see how your day was. Less argument will ensue and happier times will flourish. Read on to learn about what tricks you can do to make your guy do practically anything.
Problem: He Doesn’t Do Chores – Solution: Play With Him
So your guy says he’s allergic to doing his chores. He leaves dishes in the sink or clothes on the floor or laundry in the dryer. To fix this pesky problem simply indulge him in playful behavior. Men love to be goofy even if it’s at the most inappropriate times so go with the flow and play with him for a few minutes. Get your guy revved up and in a happy mood. Then tell him you will finish playing with him later as long as he empties the dishwasher or anything else you need him to do. Your guy will be much more receptive to this request with all those feel-good chemicals floating through his brain.
Problem: He Thinks Being Romantic Is Giving You A Back Rub While Watching TV – Solution: Use the Slow Approach
Since most guys haven’t been taught how to be romantic, it is our job to give them little hints to steer them in the right way. Comment on how pretty lilies are while walking by a store or stage candles everywhere in your place to create a romantic vibe. Model some romantic behavior by offering a massage on the bed with soothing oils. This will make him comfortable enough to repay the favor. Whatever way you introduce romance, make sure to do it slowly and consistently. Over time you guy will clue in and start doing this spontaneously.
Problem:You Guy is A Social Nightmare Around Peeps – Solution: Ignore The Bad And Praise The Good
Is this your guy: you and your guy meet up with some friends and he immediately starts telling off-putting jokes or makes snide remarks. I’m sure you’re immediate action is to react and tell him to knock it off. This, however, proves to be ineffective. This type of reaction for men makes them feel like children. Inadvertently you are acting as a mother and your bf is your child. Instead of reacting, simply ignore. When your guy is behaving good, give him some much needed PDA (Public Displays of Affection) by tapping him on the butt or giving him a quick kiss. Since men are always thinking about sex, doing these PDA’s will register that this feels good, give me more. They will soon realize the connection.
Problem: You Argue And He Runs – Solution: Stay Level Headed
When it comes to arguing, you find that your are talking to the walls. He either shuts down or leaves the room. To avoid this behavior, try to act cool and well mannered when approaching him. I know this sounds hard, but in the long run, you will have a guy that will listen to you and perhaps communicate back to you.
Just like puppies who need training, men need guidance in your relationship. I hope this helps!
