What To Do When Your Relationship Hits A Speed Bump

Wendy Feldman — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 15:12:56 +0000

Not all relationships are smooth sailing. You will have your ups and downs and rough spots which is just a normal part of your relationship. This doesn’t mean you are doomed as a couple. With some reevaluation, both of you can find your way again after your relationship hits a speed bump. Here are the steps to regain footing in your relationship.

Steps To Build Back Your Relationship

Ask Each Other Why The Love is Gone – Whether it’s due to stress, differing views on children and marriage or work, finding what caused the break in your relationship is key to mending it.
Let Your Feelings Out – Once you find out the cause of the discord in your relationship, both of you need to talk about your feelings. This isn’t the time to argue and try to “win” your way. To cut down the feelings of wanting to argue, go to a park or cafe and have a reasonable discussion. Try talking in 2-minute intervals so that both of you can get your say in your feelings.
Decide if You Need a Break – Taking a break could be beneficial to your relationship. If you find that you lost yourself in the relationship, a break can help. Regardless, it’s important that both of you realize the problem and decide together if it is worth fixing it.
Rekindle Your Love – If you choose to work on your relationship, now is the good time to try and rekindle the feelings you two had when you fell in love. Plan date night and go back to places where you two were first dating. Also try to reconnect more emotionally by sharing your feelings more.

4 Traits Your Boyfriend Should Have Before You Get Serious

Wendy Feldman — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 17:42:55 +0000

You tell your girlfriends that “he’s the one.” He makes you laugh and feel beautiful; you think he’s ultra sexy and can’t keep you mind off of him. The chemistry between you two is sizzling and kissing him causes you goose bumps every time. Before you two get serious, though, your man should have some traits to show you that he’s a keeper. Here are four traits your bf should definitely have.

He Is Responsible With His Finances

Money is a serious topic in a relationship. As most divorce couples argued over money, knowing that your guy is level-headed when it comes to finances is a good starting point in your serious relationship. Some signs to know that he’s responsible with money are:

He Keeps His Receipts – This shows that he is organized and keeps tracks of what he spends.
He Uses Credit Cards and His Debit Card – This shows that he has money in the bank and isn’t putting everything on his credit card.
You Notices Many Credit Card Offerings In The Mail – This shows he has good credit.

He Has Reasonable Long-Time Goals

A sure sign that he’s in it for the long haul is when he expresses to you that he has some long-time goals and knows what he wants in his life. Make sure he wants a career and that he plans to get married and have children.

He Is Open To Your Suggestions

Most guys will not change for your entirely but if they are open to some change then you know he really has fallen for you. For example, if he changes his hair style or clothing attire, then you know that you are more important than what he looks like.

He Is Optimistic

Men who are cheery and optimistic will have fabulous relationships. Women are attracted by a confident and optimistic fellow who can see the light at the end of the tunnel.

You have a keeper if your guy possess these qualities so make sure to keep him!